There is something powerful about a praying mother. A mother, on her knees, face down, praying over and over, day after day because she sees her child and grandchildren suffer – its the only action she can take, the only one that brings about true change. I am talking about my mother who has spent countless hours praying that the toxic person that infiltrated our lives and changed our path forever would be removed. BUT My mom also prayed that she would be blessed as she moved on. Wow! Not many of us moms would pray that prayer for the ones that hurt our children. She did and her prayers were answered recently.
The “girl” that had a hand in the destruction of my marriage is now gone and out of our lives. Not the ending my ex was hoping for in his relationship but the one we all needed – desperately needed. With her exit from our lives – we can all begin to heal. Needless to say it has been a long hard road filled with many battles and a constant state of turmoil. My ex and I were never allowed to deal with our own stuff that led to the end of our 25 year relationship nor allowed to figure out how we co-parent our children together. That one person kept us in battle mode at all times. After her departure, my children and I breathed a huge sigh of relief, almost instantaneously – as well as He did. I think he realized the grass wasn’t greener and what a mess he had to clean up after her departure – because frankly the carnage of infidelity has a ripple affect that continues and continues – a hard lesson he has had to learn. But here’s the thing about family – my children showed up and stood up for him – as did I.
The good news is that We, as a family are healing. Fences are being mended, relationships that were estranged are being repaired, forgiveness and grace abound. And although it is not the way I thought it would look 25 years ago – it is good – its just different. My ex and I are co-parenting our beautiful littles and they are thriving – all of our children have access to us and we communicate fluidly about family stuff. He has someone new in his life, whom I like and get along beautifully with.
So let me give you just a glimpse at what GOD can do with those prayers from my mother and what my family’s reality is now -Mia’s Gotcha Day celebration brought all of our children, me and my family and him and his family together – United! At a soccer tournament recently – we all went and sat together as a family to cheer Maddie on and after had a meal; Me, my ex, both of our significant others and our 3 girls. That felt good. When I think about our lives and the reality we are now living it brings tears to my eyes. Knowing how far we have come to get to this point, all the water under the bridge and yet GOD still can heal and bring beauty from ashes.
I never in a million years thought that this was possible – but again never underestimate what GOD can do. He can move mountains! He does honor and hear our prayers, especially those sent to him by a mother.
This certainly isn’t the end of the story, but just the beginning. I finally feel like I have closure with that part of my life and it finally feels “right” and in order. It frees me to move on. What a journey…. I’m excited to see the next chapters.