You should be here

Have you ever heard the country song by Cole Swindell entitled “You should be here”? The song was written from the perspective of a loved one missing out on the amazing things happening in life (specifically a son to his father). One line of the song says – “You’d be loving this, You’d be freaking out, you’d be smiling, Yeah I know you’d be all about, what’s going on right here, right now”. This song resonates with me because my dad is missing so much that I wanted him to be part of. And as the song says – he would be loving it – all of it!

If I got just 1 hour with him to update him – I mean:

• Kip’s success with his Card Game and as an Entrepreneur!!!- He would be so proud and entertained that he named it “Go Fuck Yourself” lol
• Lizzy’s an Attorney!!! He would be so proud

Him missing Maddie & Mia’s stuff hurts a little bit more just because he got so much time in the big’s life (not enough) but he saw them through high school, sports and college graduation (well he was a few weeks shy of lizzy’s college graduation). He knew they would be successful and had been such an integral part of the “Village” it takes to raise kids.

He got to see none of Maddie or Mia’s High School accomplishments, High School sports and now Maddie’s College Acceptance and none of Ethan and Cooper’s either. He’s missed so much. And not just the big stuff – its the little stuff too, like the come from behind Win at Mia’s High School Singles match yesterday, the tough singles match Maddie played this weekend that pushed her, Lizzy now playing golf, Kip’s new edition card game coming out and all the other small stuff I don’t get to share with him and talk about.

But I am reminded that his legacy lives on! Through all of my kids of course, but in a special way. I was contacted this morning by someone wanting to take advantage of the T-Boy Breaux Fund that we have with the SWLA Community Foundation. And as part of our mission and an effort to keep his legacy alive, we will be funding some very excited children the opportunity to play ball, as well as some sports equipment. THIS makes me smile and I know my dad is smiling down as well.

Time does not make it any easier – only harder without him. He is irreplaceable. Me having the ability to keep his memory alive helping kids play sports in our community makes the sting a little bit easier.